TIME TO TAKE THIS SERIOUSLY

Things aren’t just showing a few cracks now. Your answers suggest that several important parts of the relationship may have weakened significantly.

That doesn’t automatically mean the relationship is beyond repair. But this probably isn’t something to brush aside or hope will sort itself out. When several pillars are struggling at the same time, it’s worth looking carefully at what has been happening — and whether both of you are willing to work on rebuilding them.

WHAT TO DO NEXT

Don’t try to repair everything at once. Start with the pillar that feels most damaged — particularly respect or trust, if either of those scored badly.

Ask yourselves a harder question first: do we both want to make this better? If the answer is yes, choose one recurring problem and agree on one concrete change each of you will make.

If you keep having the same painful conversations without anything changing, consider getting outside support rather than simply repeating the cycle.